Trust

Trustno one. This seemingly beneficial virtue for a happy life can be a bit counterproductive, making issues where there didn’t need to be one. A lack of trust can lead to a multitude of issues, including the inability to maintain relationships. But if you trust too much, you leave yourself vulnerable; a target for disappointment. The concept of trust: the firm belief in reliability, truth, ability, or strength of something or someone; is a bit foreign when reclusive secrecy has become the norm. But the fact of the matter is, if we build our walls up too high, we doom ourselves to a fate full of solitude and loneliness. Trust issues can develop during any stage of life due to a variety of reasons. Trust issues are not exclusively linked to childhood experiences, they can really develop during any stage of life.2 Adolescence is another milestone for trying and developmentally altering experiences. Young teens who are bullied and teased at school or at home may develop a mistrust for their peers, as their self-esteem has been effected which in turn will play a monumental role on that individuals ability to trust. Traumatic life events during any stage of life including adulthood can seriously hinder the trust spectrum. Occurrences such as theft, illness, or loss of a loved one. This person has been disillusioned, and have to come to terms with new emotions such as loss of control, abandonment, or loss of security. On a more heinous scale, experiences such as sexual assault or rape can leave the victim stripped of the ability to trust. There is a direct connection between the existence of trust issues and mental health. Perhaps some of the most tragic trust issues are those that are generated by PTSD, due to some horrifyingly traumatic event. Many adults who have underwent war and all of the experiences that come with it, often carry those experiences with them off of the battleground. Many of these individuals feel that they did not receive the appropriate support from their government or their peers, after offering the ultimate sacrifice. That horrific experience leaves these heroes riddled with issues, trust being the main contender. Often times, the presence of trust issues are often couple with a multitude of additional issues. Be it abandonment, humiliation, or a traumatic physical experience, trust issues don’t travel alone. These additional ailments are a good indication as to what has caused the trust issues to begin with. Therapy – the most direct and effective way. This should be your first method of attack. I know, I know. Going to therapy eludes to some kind of stigma, like you’re crazy or something, or can’t handle your life. But the truth is that none of that is true. You’re just a bit damaged, and you may not even be aware as to what has caused the damage. You’re battling the after effects and you deserve a rest. Speaking to a counselor/therapist/psychologist can be incredibly beneficial, because you end up digging deep and unveiling aspects of yourself and memories that had been suppressed. This is helpful for both the individual as well as the couple, if the trust issues are within the relationship.

Emoji's

How Emojis play an important role in our daily lives? Did you know that 6 billion emojis1 are sent a day? Emojis are everywhere, from everyday personal online communications to advertising campaigns. The message is easily conveyed by using emoji expressions. It triggers the emotional side of our brains, thus amplifying the complete gist of the message and increasing the reader’s involvement. Most significant things to know Emojis are smileys and ideograms used in the web pages and electronic messages. There are different genres of emojis such as emotions, animals, types of weather, places, common objects, and facial expressions. Originating in the late 1990s on the Japanese mobile phones, emoji had become rapidly popular all over the world from when they first started to become incorporated into the iPhone, which was further included in the Android and many other mobile operating system. Emojis improve communication Emojis play a significant role in our conversation.2 We comprehend emojis immediately for the reason that we can get visually understand what emojis actually are expressing. The reason we acknowledged them so rapidly is that emojis are equivalent to body language and tonal inflection. Sentence structure helps, however, when you are on Facebook, rapidly messaging a companion, or utilizing your smartphone to remark on Twitter, emojis help gets your message across, where text becomes inadequate. Verbal signs may not be as emotional since a few people talk with a dull tone, or can without much of a stretch camouflage mockery in their verbal expression. It rtakes time to comprehend somebody’s verbalized comical inclination, so emojis come in handy, as it clarifies what someone is genuinely saying. How do you use emojis? If you are an active phone user, then you are possibly pretty familiar with emojis. The usage and design of emojis look pretty simple, but there is a lot of potential in using these excitements in a creative manner. There is no instruction guide on how one must utilize the little realistic images. Some people use the proper emoji after their text, such as a smiley face after the words, “I’m happy.” Others add a series of emojis that may even look unrelated to convey their happiness. How ever you want to express yourself through emojis is really up to you. There is no right or wrong way. Some popular emojis and their meanings There are numerous meaning behind emojis. Here are some of the most important emojis and their meanings: Person Shrugging: An individual shrugging their shoulders usually designates an absence of knowledge about a specific topic, or an absence of care about the outcome of a situation. Face With Tears of Joy: A giggling emoji with tears depicts a state of so much joy that they’re in tears. (The person sending the emoji may not literally be in tears; this emoji is meant to display the excessiveness of the joy.) Red Heart: A classic red heart emoji is utilized to express love. Heart-Eyes Smiling Face: A face with hearts as eyes is used as a declaration of affection, for example: “I love this” or “I love you.” Thinking Face: Utilized to indicate thinking or deep thought. Fire: Can be used to explain someone or something being hot, or literally being in a fiery environment such as sitting around a campfire. Smiling Face With Smiling Eyes: This shows a true sense of pleasure. Face with Rolling Eyes: This is used to show boredom, contempt or disdain about a person or topic. In conclusion, emojis play a significant role in our daily lives. We communicate every day on mobile phones and online using emojis for fast and easy conversation. Emojis are pretty important for reliable conversation. They can be a means of self-expression—expressing our thoughts and feelings. Nowadays, emojis are becoming more popular in social media, non-academic, and the general casual conversations, changing the way we communicate when not face-to-face.

Fear eats you

Rightnow, you’re living your life in fear. You probably don’t even realize it, but fear is controlling you – your life, your relationships, and your decision making. Don’t worry though, you’re not alone. In fact, everyone around you is going through the same thing. You see, fear is powerful and taught to us at a young age. You learn what you should do and what shouldn’t do to avoid punishment and discomfort, that things that naturally cause fear. Now that you’ve grown up, however, fear comes from a number of different sources. And if you don’t know the source of your fear, it is nearly impossible to overcome. In fact, it makes it easy for other people and situations to control you and your actions. Maybe you have always wanted to travel the world. Now, you work as a travel agent planning other people’s trips and you think, “close enough”. Or, maybe you imagined yourself in a romantic relationship. Instead, you find yourself with somebody who is “nice enough”. Settling is a sign that you fear your dreams and desires are unattainable. You fear failing to achieve your hopes, forgetting your innate resilience to overcome failure. You Get Sick Often Due to a Lot of Unknown or Unrecognized Fear Living with a lot of unknown or unrecognized fear can cause stress-like responses in your body. One of the most common stress-induced symptoms is feeling sick1. Have you had a sudden bout of unexplained gastrointestinal problems? Gaining weight but you haven’t changed your diet and exercise routine? Maybe you’re just feeling an overall sense of tiredness, body aches, and headache? Fear is weakening the resilience of your immune system.

Learning a new language is necessary

Want To Learn A New Language? Learn These 3 Hacks First Have you ever wondered what an easy way to learn a foreign language is? Or, maybe you’ve tried to learn a foreign language but don’t know how and where to start? Many of us face the same dilemma when it comes to learning a new language. We try overpriced courses but seem to land nowhere in practice. It is correct that learning a new language requires a lot of dedication. But, what if we told you that there are simple ways to reach expert level? Yes, that’s true. Here’s how you can learn a foreign language quickly with minimum suffering 1. Start by perfecting the 100 most-used terms in the language 2. Use the wonders of modern technology: Wokabulary App 3) Duolingo for guidance, Rosetta Stone for independence Successfully Learning a Foreign Language Makes You Smarter! According to scientific research, learning a new language provides many cognitive benefits. If you start at an early age, you can gain various cognitive abilities. Language learning has also been proven to reduce memory loss issues that come with the advancement of age. Bilingual children have shown more creative and variant thinking than monolingual children. All the more reason to start learning a foreign language today. Thanks to this article, you now know the easiest ways to start learning a new language!

Exercise with empty stomach, good or bad?

Asthe amount of fitness information available is getting bigger, the chances of being exposed to bad advice are also growing, creating more fitness myths than ever. Yet, one of the most debatable myths that has been out there forever is the myth of working out on an empty stomach. It has been a prevailing thought for decades that you shouldn’t eat or drink prior to working out, and it seems that only recently the public has started questioning its accuracy. All research considered, a fed workout actually has more scientifically proven benefits to overall health, fitness, weight loss, and workout performance, as opposed to fasted training. It may seem like fasted training aids in body fat loss, but in the long run, it actually has counterproductive effects, as the body starts to store fat and burn less calories as a precaution. Additionally, the studies show far greater and longer effects on burning body fat with fed training than those of a fasted. Moreover, the decreased appetite shown in groups who performed fed training is another reason for people who want to shed some weight to enjoy a light meal before a workout in order to prevent later cravings. Finally, for reaching new higher goals in fitness and training, a fed workout is again a much more productive option, since the calories provide enough energy for extra effort.

Vegetable oils

Is oil healthy or unhealthy? If you’re like most people, your answer will be unhealthy. We associate oil with fat, and worry that it will make us gain weight. We think that too much oil can cause all sorts of harmful diseases. That’s somewhat true, but it doesn’t give us the full story. Most of the negative views we have around oil are based on highly-processed vegetable oils, which are often used in fast food, restaurants, and convenience foods. While these vegetable oils can be bad for you, they’re not the only options. Wait…what’s wrong with vegetable oil? There are various different types of vegetable oil, which include: Corn Sunflower Canola Soybean Unlike more natural oils, which can be obtained by pressing, vegetable oils are obtained through a complex chemical process. This process involves heating seeds to high temperatures, processing with a petroleum solvent, adding acid, and using deodorising chemicals. Doesn’t sound that appealing, does it? It’s been shown that cooking with vegetable oils can release toxic chemicals which have been linked to cancer, heart disease and dementia.  Many vegetable oils contain large amounts of trans fats, which are linked to obesity and various diseases, including cardiovascular disease. They can also increase your risk of conditions like asthma and eczema. 

We don't talk anymore

How to Negotiate When the Person You're Talking to Is Stubborn Itcan be very frustrating when the person you are talking to is stubborn. It can feel like they are not willing to listen to a word that you are saying, which makes you wonder why you are even bothering to make your point in the first place. However it may be more than just stubbornness that is stopping your friend from changing their mind. According to psychologists, the more one person tries to convince someone else of something they don’t agree with, the more the other person will blindly stand their ground. 1 This might make it seem like it is impossible to change their mind, but that isn’t the case. In reality you can use useful negotiation tips to help the other person see your point of view, and this can be beneficial for both of you; it opens your minds up to new ideas and it makes it easier for you to understand each other. If you want someone to see your point of view, here are four useful negotiation tactics that will help 1.Present Both Sides Of The Argument 2.Focus On Showing Them The Whole Picture, Rather Than Trying To Prove Them Wrong 3.Highlight The Negative Parts Of Your Argument 4.Point Out That In The End It Is Their Decision

Hate your job,see what you can do.

Hate Your Job But Don't Know What to Do? Check This to Make up Your Mind Do mornings bring with them a sense of impending doom? Do you often lie in bed sleepless, hating your life and yourself? And would your rather have your teeth pulled out, one by one, sans any anesthesia rather than going to work? If a really stressed yes is your answer, then it’s pretty clear that you hate your job and would go through anything to be able to send in a scathing resignation letter. The thing is, practically speaking, most of us don’t have the wherewithal to be able to simply quit a job we hate, for there are bills to be paid. So what to do when you hate your job? Why is it so hard to quit, and even harder to stay? Moaning and groaning about your job on an everyday basis is not only making you miserable but also irritating everyone around you. And telling yourself that sticking to a known devil rather than trying out an unknown one is better is bad philosophy. If you hate your job, you are probably not going to be very good at it in any case, and are setting yourself up for a big fall later; and frankly if it is getting unbearable – you need to find a way out, pronto!1. That said, the five most common reasons people keep doing the jobs they hate are listed below, and they are pretty understandable too. Fear of testing new waters One of the main reasons people keep sticking to the jobs they hate, and probably end up hating themselves while they are hard at work is the fear of unknown waters. This is particularly true for people nearing retirement or women getting back to work after a maternity leave, or even employees who have stagnated in the company or at the same position for too long. Monetary concerns Yep, the cost of living, unpaid bills and rising debts can put the fear of God into anyone! Your rather rickety financial situation will be worsened with unemployment and so this is one reason people stay put in the jobs they hate, unable to see a way out, at least immediately. A lull in the job market Sometimes you stay in the job you hate simply because there seems to be a dearth of good jobs in any case. Your regular scouring of classifieds and job sites simply tells you that leaving now means you might end up unemployed for a bit Being miserable is okay So you hate your job. So what. There are so many people in the world who would shrug and say “what to do when you hate your job”? Its part and parcel of life, you don’t have to like what you do – and somewhere this homily has taken root in you. And if this job is giving your family a good life, then it is well worth the sacrifice, no? Is it, truly? All jobs are the same And the final excuse, somehow you think that all the jobs in the world are bad and would probably end up making you miserable one way or another. Bad bosses, jealous colleagues and a workload that feels like the entire world’s weight – all jobs are like that, only … well, they aren’t.

Relation mistakes we always made

We’ve all been there before, head over heels in love and sure our partner is “the one”. We spend every waking moment together and dream about what the future will bring. We’re sure this is the deepest love we’ve ever felt. And then the day comes when the relationship doesn’t work out. Those breakups can be the most painful and often leave us asking ourselves, “what happened?” When you’re young, it can be easy to commit the biggest relationship mistake in the dating world: Thinking love is enough to sustain a relationship. Patty Smyth had it right when she sang, “Baby, sometimes love just ain’t enough.” But don’t worry. You’re not alone. Everybody experiences this relationship mistake at one time or another. It’s all part of learning more about ourselves. How to Avoid the Biggest Relationship Mistake Maybe you’re thinking, how can the biggest relationship mistake be thinking that love is enough? What more could a relationship possibly need? The answer is: plenty. When you rely on love alone to sustain your relationship, it can be easy to forget about some other very important factors. But don’t worry, we’re going to take a look at just what’s missing from these relationships. 1.Trust 2.Understanding 3.Respect 4.Communication 5.Be Able to Spend Time Apart 6.Support

Your face don't tell your Attractiveness

Ever wondered why there are some people who fit into the convention of beauty and yet are not as popular as opposed to an average Jill or Joe, who garners far more attention? The secret to attractiveness doesn’t lie in your features, your clothes or even your groomed personality. It lies in your emotions! What’s The Measure of Attractiveness? New research by Silke Anders, a professor of Social and Affective Neuroscience at the University of Lübeck, indicates that most people are drawn to people who understand their emotions the best.1 So basically, if someone ‘gets’ us, we find them attractive. And the opposite is also true. The more certain we are of thinking that we know what the other person is feeling; the more attracted we are to him, or her. It’s about the sending of emotional signals and of perceiving them – which sounds pretty simple in theory but is often not. Most of us tend to hide the visual cues of our emotions and become pretty adept at it. But it’s this very quality that becomes a roadblock in our levels of attractiveness. To be more attractive to others, we need to be more of an open book than a secretive one and let people see what we are feeling by facial cues. Can This Quality Be Adapted? To make yourself more attractive to others, you need to project your emotions as clearly as possible. The more comprehensible emotions that you project to others, the more your levels of attractiveness increase – if a person is able to judge what you are feeling accurately because of your clear emotional projection, then his or her brain’s reward system fires up and in doing so – makes you more attractive  in that person’s eyes. Remember that this is not an advice to let the waterworks flow; just don’t try to be stoic all the time. Let those lips droop when sad, or those eyes sparkle in happiness – the more people are able to read you, the more attractive they will find you. A Last Bit of Advice Instead of letting the whole world and sundry see what we are feeling, perhaps it better to let our guard down when with someone that we find attractive, and who we want to perceive our attractiveness. And once in a relationship, it’s a good thing to keep working at our emotional projection then too – for we want our significant others to keep perceiving our attractiveness in a good, healthy way…

Wanna To Be Happy , Try Losing Things

The idea that possessions make us happy is an illusion. Putting all our happiness into things and even people or past experiences is ultimately allowing us to cultivate a notion that happiness doesn’t come from within — that it’s reliant on outside circumstances and objects. We put so much emphasis on what our possessions mean to us that we conclude, that having these things in our life must be what’s bringing us happiness. However, what if we just let things go? Whether it’s a person or a possession, letting go can feel painful and we often wonder how can pain possibly bring happiness? Our mind tends to focus on the illogical aspect of this but in essence, letting go of things will lead us to live much more happy and fulfilling lives. Let Go of the Idea That Happiness Is Contained In Your Current Possessions This is a huge misconception. Whether it’s that pair of shoes, the car, the latest smartphone, or the person we’ve been longing after — our mind believes that our lives will get better and we’ll be happier only when these things enter into our lives. And yes, they might make us feel excitement and joy for a short while but our ability to adapt to our environments and what’s in it causes us to get bored easily and move on to the next thing that’ll bring us happiness again. Even in relationships, we believe a certain person will make us happy but sometimes you find out they just don’t. So it’s important to let go of the idea that happiness can be found by external means. If you let go of this idea you will come to realize that nothing around you contributes to your happiness other than inside yourself. Let Go of What You Can’t Control Let Go of Your Past Possessions Let Go of The People Who Don’t Serve Your Present Pain, More Often Than Not, Leads To Happiness

Learn, how to Understand Yourself ?

You may be thinking that all of this is easier said than done. That’s understandable. We all have a certain amount of programming and bad habits in our brains that can sometimes make change difficult. But we are nothing if not flexible. There are several things you can start doing right now that will help you to understand yourself and maybe even enjoy your own company. Go on quiet walks on your own in nature. Nature puts us in tune with our mind and body and relieves depression. Enjoying nature for a little while every day can help you feel more content in being alone with yourself . Journal. Don’t worry about whether or not you’re a good writer. In fact, don’t worry about what you’re writing about at all. Use the “stream of consciousness” technique.Journaling can be a great way to vent and relieve tension and can help you reach a better understanding of your own mind. You needn’t devote much time to this activity unless it feels right. Five to ten minutes should suffice. Use art of any kind. Whether it’s music, painting, or just coloring, art is an invaluable tool to help you connect with your deeper self in a more meaningful level. Many people use coloring to put their mind into a meditative or calm state when traditional meditation doesn’t work for them. Meditate. Meditating is probably one of the most tried and true methods to help you gain a deeper understanding and love for yourself. Just remember if it’s your first time, not to be discouraged if you can’t completely relax into a meditation. The key to a happy life isn’t a happy relationship. The trick is to realize that you’re beautiful, wonderful, and whole all by yourself. Take some time to get to know the wonderful being that is you. The only side effects are increased happiness and health!