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Life after death

Can the Dead Think? Can a dead brain think and react to external stimuli? Until now, this possibility had been the realm of science fiction and horror movies. However, a recent peer-reviewed study has shown that brains which had been preserved in formaldehyde and alcohol for as long as twenty years after they had been removed from their body, still reacted to external stimuli in much the same way a living brain would. What’s more, these pickled brains showed cerebral activity nearly identical to that of living brains in the area of the brain most associated with personality, a sense of self, and core memories, which suggests the perseverance of some residue of the person deep inside a disembodied brain. Science vs. Popular Culture The idea that a severed brain floating in a specimen jar could still think and act has been a mainstay of Futurama, which features President Nixon and other celebrities leading a sort of afterlife in large mobile glass jars. It has also been the foundation of the current zombie craze in movies, television, and books, all of which are based on the idea that the unusually hungry undead are animated by a brain which has someone maintained at least a little activity following the demise of its owner. In the entertainment universe, there is no consensus on how a dead brain could still make its corpse body lumber about in search of human prey. Some movies such as Romero’s Night of the Living Dead, left the question completely unanswered, though the fact that those who had been bitten by a zombie came back to life as flesh-eating zombies suggested some sort of infectious agent. In the Walking Dead, the zombies are said to be animated as a result of some sort of infection, but the process or nature of the pathogen is never clearly explained. The Zombie Survival Guide, by Max Brooks, was the first book to take a “serious” look at how zombie brains might continue to operate, despite the death of the body. According to ZSG, zombie brains had been infected by a virus which preserved the brain and slowed decay, and as a result made away with the need for food, for oxygen, and all of the other things that living brains need. The theory put forth in ZSG seems preposterous and not possible in real life. After all, the brain – like all of our other organs – needs oxygen and nutrients to survive or it begins to break down and decompose. But what if decomposition could be stopped or slowed down, such as when a brain is placed in a preserving solution? The Research Until now, the prevailing wisdom is that even though the visible structures of the dead brain might be preserved by immersing it in alcohol or formaldehyde, the underlying environment was so different from the conditions of life that no brain function could be possible. Except that no one had bothered to test that assumption, at least until now. Starting from the observation that the structure of organs dictates their functions, a team of neurosurgeons set out to ask: if the structure of the brain remains intact, will its function survive? The researchers took a number of brains and parts of brains which had been preserved in embalming fluid, for as long as twenty years, and subjected them to a number of stimuli ranging from electromagnetic, chemical and light. They then measured the brain’s reaction using essentially the same equipment that would be used to measure brain activity in a living brain. The Results The results were both shocking and disturbing. All of the dead brains that were tested, showed reactions nearly identical to the types of reactions that occurred in living brains when the living brains were exposed to the same kind of stimuli. Despite the fact that the dead brains had been without nutrients, without oxygen, and in some cases had been dissected, they continued to function at least on a basic level. What’s more, the activity elicited by these stimuli took place in areas of the brain that were associated with memory, with selfhood, and with personality. The results led the researchers to make to understated but striking conclusions: The precise point beyond which the brain is no longer “living,” a threshold which remains unidentified, is perhaps less definite than has been historically assumed. [T]he post-mortem brain which displays subtle cortical oscillations, particularly within the theta and gamma bands as demonstrated here, could express some capacity for cognitive activation. (Cognitive = thinking.) What Does This All Mean? The study’s results are too new to fully map out all of the implications, but they hint at the survival of some sort of consciousness after death, at least until the brain decays to the point where its structures are no longer intact. Usually, the brain begins to irreversibly decay the moment that a person dies, but in cases where the brain has been preserved, as in the case of specimens in a jar or perhaps even in cryogenic sleep, it is possible that the brain – and perhaps its consciousness – persists. This is both fascinating and horrifying. Have we condemned thousands of brain specimens floating in jars in university labs throughout the world to a kind of half death? Could they be self-aware? Do they dream? Are they trapped forever in between life and death? Could this lead to a way to cheat death, like on Futurama, or does it mean that zombies are possible after all? If some consciousness survives, what does this mean for Einstein’s Brain whose beautiful brain has been preserved for decades in a glass jar? Has he been whiling away the years working on a universal theory of relativity all this time? What would a brain completely devoid of sensory input do? Experiences with people put in isolation chambers suggest that they would start to hallucinate and dream. Perhaps you the reader are floating in a jar, and this article is your own invention, your brain’s way of telling you that all of what you see is just an illusion. Imagine if we could learn to contact and communicate with the brains of the dead? Perhaps they could unlock secrets for us, even solve their murders by telling us who did it, or allow us to eventually re-animate them completely. Perhaps this will lead to a new service offered by funeral homes: preserving the brains of your loved ones and hooking them up to virtual reality so they can continue to enjoy their afterlife. Of course, our meddling with the processes of death might just unleash a zombie apocalypse.

Questions to ask

New relationships are always fun and exciting, full of life and an undying desire to get to know one another. Once you’ve been together for a little while, you become really comfortable with each other and little things, such as the need to ask each other questions, begin to die down a bit. Keep that spark going in your relationship! It’s totally necessary and shows that you are still interested in that “honeymoon” stage that is ultimately the beginning of a new relationship. Sometimes it’s just good to have a cute Q&A sesh, whether you’re really trying to get to know the boy on a more intimate level or are just trying to be cute with one another! If you are in need of some cute questions to ask your boyfriend, here’s a whole list! Cute and Romantic Questions 1.What does it feel like to you when we hold each other? 2 When did you first realize you loved / liked me? 3 What is your first thought in the morning when you wake up next to me? 4 If we got married someday, where would you want to take me on a honeymoon? 5 If I had to move really far, would you stay in a long distance relationship with me? 6 How do you feel when we’re apart? 7 Do you believe in love at first sight? 8  Do you believe in soulmates? 9 Do you think we’re soulmates? 10 Would you meet my parents? 11 Would you introduce me to your parents? 12 Would you shout my name to the world? 13 Everything happens for a reason—why do you think we met? 14 What was your very first impression of me when you first saw me? 15 What was your first impression of me when we actually met? 16 Do you remember the day we met? 17 What was the first thing that you noticed about me that made you feel attracted? 18 How would you describe our first kiss? 19 At what point did you decide that you wanted us to be “official?” 20 Is there a song that you think of when you think of me? 21 Why do you like / love me? 22 If I had to move away really far, would you come with me? Flirty Questions 1 How many times did you want to kiss me before our actual first kiss? 2 Do you like kissing in the dark or kissing in the rain more? 3 How would you describe the way I kiss? 4 What is your favorite physical feature of mine? 5 What do you see when you close your eyes kissing me? 6 Do you like to cuddle? 7 Would you rather hug for 5 seconds or kiss for 1 second? 8 Would you kiss me on the nose? 9 Would you kiss me on the forehead? 10 Would you hold my hand in public? 11Would you kiss me in public? 12 Do you like when I touch your face? 13 Where is your favorite place to be kissed? 14 Where is your favorite place to kiss me? 15 Where is your favorite place to be massaged? 16 Would you ever go skinny dipping with me? 17 Would you ever take a bath with me? 18 Would you kiss me on the wrist? 19 Would you kiss me on the neck? Cute Questions to Get Him Talking About You 1 If you could describe me with 3 words, what would they be? 2 What is your favorite pet name for me? 3 How would you describe the way I smell? 4 What's something I do, that I don't realize I do, that you love? 5 Is there anything you dislike about me? 6 What is a quirky thing about me that you love? 7 Would you ever write a song for me? 8 Would you ever write a poem about me? 9 Would you take a break from your favorite hobby to spend time with me? 10 Do you get butterflies when you read my notes? 11 Does it make you smile when I send you a text message? 12 Have you ever had a dream about me? 13 What is your favorite dream that involved me? 14 What is your favorite memory of me so far? 15 If I was really sad, what would you do to cheer me up? 16 If I looked completely different, would you still love me? 17 Would you risk your life to save mine? 18 Do I make you happy? 19 Do I make you want to reach your fullest potential? 20 Do I make you want a future with me? 21 Do you think I’m cute? 22 Do you think I’m pretty?  23 Do you think I look cute even when playing tomboy sports? 24 Would you take me out to see a chick flick? 25 If I was scared, would you hold me? 26 Do I look cute while working out? 27 If we are watching a scary movie, can I hide my eyes and cuddle you close? 28 Would you take my hand to dance, even if nobody else was on the dance floor? 29 What kind of flower would describe me? 30 Would you ever take me out on a picnic under the stars? 31If I was a dessert, what would I be and why? 32 Would you give me a piggyback ride if my feet hurt? 33 What outfit of mine do you like the most? Questions to Get Him Talking About Himself 1 When you’re alone, do you think about me? 2 Am I the kind of girl you’d take home to your parents? 3 Do you have any secrets you’d share with me? 4 Do you talk about me when you’re with your friends? 5 If your friends told you to dump me, how would you react? 6 Would it embarrass you if I called you a pet name in front of your friends? 7 If you caught another guy trying to pick me up, what would you do or say? 8 Has a sad movie ever made you cry? 9 What is your ideal date? 10 If you have a vision of the perfect date to take me on, what is it like? 11 Do you prefer that I make the first move? 12 Do you mean it when you say you love me? 13 Does it mean a lot to you when I say I love you? 14 Does it make you feel good when I tell you how cute you are? 15 What is your fondest childhood memory? 16 How old were you when you had your first kiss? 17 Do you prefer a date watching movies at home, snuggled up on the couch, or out at the movie theater? 18 If I were to make you breakfast, what would you want it to be? 19 If I were to cook you dinner, what would make you the happiest? 20 Would you ever dress up for no reason and just dance with me anywhere, even an empty parking lot? 21 How would you describe your family? 22 Do you think your family will like me too? 23 Would you enjoy a hot air balloon ride over a pretty terrain? 24 What would be your ideal vacation with me? 25 Do you let me win games? 26 If you didn’t win anything in a carnival game, would you try again? 27 Would you rather take me camping or on a tropical vacation? 28 Would you rather go on a road trip with me or with friends? 29 Would you ever take me on a trip with you and your friends? 30 What things do I do that make you blush? 31 Would you prefer to lay on a beach with me to get a tan or get playful in the water? 32 When was a time that you laughed the hardest? 33 What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done? 34 What’s the craziest thing you’d do for me? 35 Is there anything that I’d be surprised to find in your bedroom? 36 Who’s your celebrity crush? 37 Who knows you the best? 38 What’s your best feature? 39 What’s your favorite piece of clothing? 40 How can you tell that you’re going to be friends with someone? 41 What’s your favorite thing about traveling? Deep Questions 1 Have you ever been in love before? 2What does love mean to you? 3 What does being together mean to you? 4 What do you want out of being together? 5 What do you like about us as a couple? 6 What do you want to change about us as a couple? 7 What’s something you’re afraid to tell me? 8 What is something you want to know about me? 9 What, to you, is the most important thing in life? 10 Do you have any regrets? 11 What’s something that you want to change about yourself? 12 What is something I can help you with? 13 What is your biggest fear? 14 How do you know you’re doing the right thing with your life? 15 Would you change anything about your life, if you could? 16 When was a time you were deeply hurt? 17 What was one of the best moments of your life? 18 Tell me about your (best friend, parents, siblings). What’s your relationship with them like? 19 When do you feel appreciated the most? 20  What are your dealbreakers? Random Fun Questions 1 If we were stranded on an island with no food, would you hunt to help us survive? 2 If there was only one cookie left, would you give it to me? 3 If there was only one cookie left, would you share it? 4 If you could feed me a dessert, what would you pick? 5 If I could be your passenger in any car or vehicle, what would it be? 6 Would you rather race me on a jet ski or have me on the back of yours? 7 What would the title of your autobiography be? 8 If you could have any kind of cake made for you in any size, shape, or color, what would it be? 9 You have three wishes from a genie. Go! 10 If you could go back in time, but only to last week, what moment would you visit and why? 11 Hotdog or hamburger? 12 Cookie dough or cookies? 13 Ice cream or milkshake? 14 Coffee or tea? 15 You can only wear one thing for the rest of your life. What do you choose? 16 If you could choose to be talented with words, music, or dance, what would you choose? 17 What celebrity most resembles me? 18 If you could go anywhere right now, where would you go? 19 If money were no object, what would you have for breakfast every day? 20 Would you rather live in a cave or under the sea? 21 You just found five dollars on the ground. What do you do? 22 If you could throw anything against a brick wall, what would it be?

ARE YOU A SOCIAL MEDIA-ALCHOLIC ?

Most of you, after reading this title will try to convince themselves through some whacky reason for not being so. But escaping reality is not a solution. In this world full of varied social media lustre ,one find himself/herself attracted like its a strong magnet and somehow gets influenced. It then depends on your company that decides it's good or bad.  But you know what! Whether it's good or bad, too much of social media will always end up vanishing your real world image. It's because you gradually decrease paying attention to yourself and you get so much addicted that you start skipping other important stuff like morning walks, family times and even timely food . And that I know many of you still skip.  Checking notifications, sending /receiving texts, updating status and other blahs have made our lives busier than ever, but the truth is we have a lot of time if we just kick this unnecessary identities out . Just imagine your life without Fb and Insta , now some will say, "what! Are you insane!?" Haha ,but it's okay na it's not the only thing that matters. What matters is how beautiful is your life in real world than you pretend it is in your virtual world. So guys, I think you got my point here. All I wanna say is less social media, more the real you.

Who will you hire? Learn what that below-average a

For a moment, imagine that you the hiring manager of one of the giants of the business world and your job is to hire the people who are best for the jobs you’re offering. After a random selection of candidates through an evaluation exam in which only a few people participated you got two final candidates to select from. At the time of the interview, both of them answered the same questions which reveal something about them & their lives. And now it’s up to you which one you are going to select. So, here they are: Candidate 1: What are your qualifications? I have graduated from a good college and a major degree in computers. Tell me about your circle. My parents, both of them are qualified professors in the same college I have graduated from and they love me a lot. My friends and the places where I have worked earlier were both satisfying and I came here in search for better experience. What are your weaknesses? I must admit here that even though my good time management skills my mind tend to force me to procrastinate which wins sometimes. But I am constantly working on it and my procrastination tendency had already reduced from 20% to 7%. I hope that you can understand and have experience the same human tendency. Candidate 2: What are your qualifications? I joined the largest college of my city but didn’t finish it. So, till now I am a high school graduate. But I like working with computers. Tell me about your circle. My parents left me for adoption when I was young. I don’t have many friends from my workplace because I constantly change my jobs, which is clear from my resume. What are your weaknesses? I am suffering from an uncommon from a brain damage known as Dyslexia which makes the things harder for me to learn, it’s also known as the learning disorder. Final decision: Till now, it must be clear in your mind that the Candidate 1 who has a degree from an esteemed college with a great family background and almost no weaknesses is a better selection the Candidate 2 who’s college drop-out Dyslexia patient who constantly changes his jobs. So, if you choose the Candidate 1, congratulations for getting a great employee for your company. But if I had this choice I would have chosen the other one. Why? Because his name is STEVE JOBS!

Cyber Bullying | An Introduction

Hello everyone, today we are going to talk about a very important topic, Cyber Bullying. We will know what is it and how is it affecting the life of many internet users. So, What is it? Cyber-Bullying is the verbal, emotional or mental abuse to anyone through the Internet. Facebook, YouTube, Twitter, Tumblr or Skype are the fun & useful sites that we use every day, but they are also the base of the Cyberbullying and most of the victims are students. It’s a kind of Virtual weapon that people use to harm others digitally. How is it growing? It isn’t growing because the no. of Bullies is huge or the victims don’t have the power, but it’s growing because people don’t complain; they just don’t want to fight back! According to a research, Only 1 in 10 victims will report this crime to their parents or any other adult which is the reason they don’t get their problems solved and the victims are 2 to 9 times more likely to commit suicide rather than fighting back. And in today’s world over 80% of teens use their cell phone at regular interval which is the reason that Mobile is the most common medium of bullying. Effect of Cyber Bullying on society & public About 43% of kids have been bullied online and teenage girls are targeted twice then teenage boys. Every 9 out of 10 LGBTQ teens experience harassment online, that again make us question the human rights. This is one of the most common reason for suicide cases in youth. Most of the cases ends leaving the long term or even permanent damage to the victims’ mind. Many teens avoid going to school due to the fear of being bullied and most of them are bullied online. “There are many other aspects related to Cyber Bullying that we need to cover, but you have to wait until the next part is ready where we will discuss the ways to fight this problem.“

Hungry why ?

Always Feeling Hungry? You Might Be Simply Thirsty You’ve eaten lunch. You felt really full. But two hours later, you feel hungry again. Then you go to get a pack of snacks. Gradually you’re gaining weight. And you ask…what’s happening? Why my appetite is growing so fast? You start to suspect if you have parasite in your body, or if you have diabetes. All these are possible. But most of the time, you’re just thirsty. 75% of Americans are chronically dehydrated and don’t even know it. And the problem is, most people can’t tell the difference between hunger and thirst. What? Even a kid would be able to tell the differences? Look at the signs of hunger and signs of thirst below first. signs of hunger and thrist 1.feeling weak                                                                  1.feeling weak   2.being irretable                                                                2..being irretable 3.headache                                                                      3.headache                       4.rumbling stomatch                                                          4.dry mouth As you can see, 3 out of 4 common signs of hunger and thirst are the same. What’s more, the part of the brain that deals with hunger and thirst feelings is the same. With the same part interpreting both signals, it becomes confusing to offer the perfect solution. So, how not to be tricked? One tip is that feelings of true hunger come gradually, but not suddenly. When in doubt, always guess in favor of hydration. It’s unlikely that you’ll ever over hydrate but it’s always so easy to overeat. Make it a habit. Drink a glass of water or herbal tea at least 30 minutes before a meal or snack. This way, you’ll be more aware of the true extent of your appetite, you’ll absorb the water more effectively, and you won’t dilute your stomach acid while it’s trying to digest. Dehydration may play a bigger role in your life than you realize. Luckily, it’s an easy fix. Learn to drink more water and not only will you find that your hunger cravings are reduced, but you’ll also feel better in general!

Lonely

Psychologists Say This Effect Makes People Become Biased And Feel Lonely Have you ever felt like you were the only one to experience a certain thought, problem or emotion? Feeling this way can be extremely isolating, leading to loneliness and a bias towards negativity. However, just because you feel different to everyone else, it doesn’t mean that you are. Psychologists have concrete psychological evidence on how similar our hopes, dreams, and fears really are, and how we can use this information to feel happier, healthier, and more motivated. An identical personality description can apply to many people. In 1948, a psychologist named Bertram Forer told his students that he was going to present them each with an individualized sketch of their personality. What the students didn’t know was that each sketch was exactly the same. The sketch consisted of twelve points, which included the following:1 1.You have a great need for other people to like and admire you. 2.You have a tendency to be critical of yourself. 3.You have a great deal of unused capacity, which you have not turned to your advantage. 4.While you have some personality weaknesses, you are generally able to compensate for them. 5.Disciplined and self-controlled outside, you tend to be worrisome and insecure inside. Does this sound like you? If it does, you’re not alone. After presenting the personality sketch, Forer asked his students to rate it according to how well it applied to them. The average rating was 4.26 out of 5, with 5 being ‘excellent.’ This result demonstrates how similar we are to one another, with each student feeling that the twelve statements were uniquely applicable to them. While people may behave in ways that hide feelings like worry and insecurity, studies like this show that they affect everyone. By keeping this in mind, you’ll find it much easier to relate to others and form genuine connections. Most humans have very similar needs. In 1943, a psychologist named Abraham Maslow proposed a ‘hierarchy of needs,’ which represented a variety of human needs in the form of a pyramid.2 The idea of the pyramid is that in order to move to the next level, the needs of the level below must first be met. For example, before you’re able to fulfill the need for friendship, you must first fulfill basic needs like food and water. Helping others is important for everyone. While self-actualization was once considered the top of the pyramid, Maslow actually added another layer later in his life. This layer is labelled ‘self-transcendence,’ and refers to achieving altruistic goals, outside of the individual. This could involve charity work, helping others, or helping the environment. By remembering that we’re fundamentally very similar to other humans, it’s much easier to avoid feeling negative and lonely. Rather than focusing on the ways you feel different from others, try to direct your attention towards everything you have in common. You’ll feel happier, more motivated, and more connected to others.

Emoji's

How Emojis play an important role in our daily lives? Did you know that 6 billion emojis1 are sent a day? Emojis are everywhere, from everyday personal online communications to advertising campaigns. The message is easily conveyed by using emoji expressions. It triggers the emotional side of our brains, thus amplifying the complete gist of the message and increasing the reader’s involvement. Most significant things to know Emojis are smileys and ideograms used in the web pages and electronic messages. There are different genres of emojis such as emotions, animals, types of weather, places, common objects, and facial expressions. Originating in the late 1990s on the Japanese mobile phones, emoji had become rapidly popular all over the world from when they first started to become incorporated into the iPhone, which was further included in the Android and many other mobile operating system. Emojis improve communication Emojis play a significant role in our conversation.2 We comprehend emojis immediately for the reason that we can get visually understand what emojis actually are expressing. The reason we acknowledged them so rapidly is that emojis are equivalent to body language and tonal inflection. Sentence structure helps, however, when you are on Facebook, rapidly messaging a companion, or utilizing your smartphone to remark on Twitter, emojis help gets your message across, where text becomes inadequate. Verbal signs may not be as emotional since a few people talk with a dull tone, or can without much of a stretch camouflage mockery in their verbal expression. It rtakes time to comprehend somebody’s verbalized comical inclination, so emojis come in handy, as it clarifies what someone is genuinely saying. How do you use emojis? If you are an active phone user, then you are possibly pretty familiar with emojis. The usage and design of emojis look pretty simple, but there is a lot of potential in using these excitements in a creative manner. There is no instruction guide on how one must utilize the little realistic images. Some people use the proper emoji after their text, such as a smiley face after the words, “I’m happy.” Others add a series of emojis that may even look unrelated to convey their happiness. How ever you want to express yourself through emojis is really up to you. There is no right or wrong way. Some popular emojis and their meanings There are numerous meaning behind emojis. Here are some of the most important emojis and their meanings: Person Shrugging: An individual shrugging their shoulders usually designates an absence of knowledge about a specific topic, or an absence of care about the outcome of a situation. Face With Tears of Joy: A giggling emoji with tears depicts a state of so much joy that they’re in tears. (The person sending the emoji may not literally be in tears; this emoji is meant to display the excessiveness of the joy.) Red Heart: A classic red heart emoji is utilized to express love. Heart-Eyes Smiling Face: A face with hearts as eyes is used as a declaration of affection, for example: “I love this” or “I love you.” Thinking Face: Utilized to indicate thinking or deep thought. Fire: Can be used to explain someone or something being hot, or literally being in a fiery environment such as sitting around a campfire. Smiling Face With Smiling Eyes: This shows a true sense of pleasure. Face with Rolling Eyes: This is used to show boredom, contempt or disdain about a person or topic. In conclusion, emojis play a significant role in our daily lives. We communicate every day on mobile phones and online using emojis for fast and easy conversation. Emojis are pretty important for reliable conversation. They can be a means of self-expression—expressing our thoughts and feelings. Nowadays, emojis are becoming more popular in social media, non-academic, and the general casual conversations, changing the way we communicate when not face-to-face.

Trust

Trustno one. This seemingly beneficial virtue for a happy life can be a bit counterproductive, making issues where there didn’t need to be one. A lack of trust can lead to a multitude of issues, including the inability to maintain relationships. But if you trust too much, you leave yourself vulnerable; a target for disappointment. The concept of trust: the firm belief in reliability, truth, ability, or strength of something or someone; is a bit foreign when reclusive secrecy has become the norm. But the fact of the matter is, if we build our walls up too high, we doom ourselves to a fate full of solitude and loneliness. Trust issues can develop during any stage of life due to a variety of reasons. Trust issues are not exclusively linked to childhood experiences, they can really develop during any stage of life.2 Adolescence is another milestone for trying and developmentally altering experiences. Young teens who are bullied and teased at school or at home may develop a mistrust for their peers, as their self-esteem has been effected which in turn will play a monumental role on that individuals ability to trust. Traumatic life events during any stage of life including adulthood can seriously hinder the trust spectrum. Occurrences such as theft, illness, or loss of a loved one. This person has been disillusioned, and have to come to terms with new emotions such as loss of control, abandonment, or loss of security. On a more heinous scale, experiences such as sexual assault or rape can leave the victim stripped of the ability to trust. There is a direct connection between the existence of trust issues and mental health. Perhaps some of the most tragic trust issues are those that are generated by PTSD, due to some horrifyingly traumatic event. Many adults who have underwent war and all of the experiences that come with it, often carry those experiences with them off of the battleground. Many of these individuals feel that they did not receive the appropriate support from their government or their peers, after offering the ultimate sacrifice. That horrific experience leaves these heroes riddled with issues, trust being the main contender. Often times, the presence of trust issues are often couple with a multitude of additional issues. Be it abandonment, humiliation, or a traumatic physical experience, trust issues don’t travel alone. These additional ailments are a good indication as to what has caused the trust issues to begin with. Therapy – the most direct and effective way. This should be your first method of attack. I know, I know. Going to therapy eludes to some kind of stigma, like you’re crazy or something, or can’t handle your life. But the truth is that none of that is true. You’re just a bit damaged, and you may not even be aware as to what has caused the damage. You’re battling the after effects and you deserve a rest. Speaking to a counselor/therapist/psychologist can be incredibly beneficial, because you end up digging deep and unveiling aspects of yourself and memories that had been suppressed. This is helpful for both the individual as well as the couple, if the trust issues are within the relationship.

Late as usual

late as usual You know the scene. You have a meeting and you’re nearly ready. By your estimation, you have time to change your outfit a few times, iron your shirt, put the wash on, feed the cat, and eat breakfast. Then you look at the time, and you’re already five minutes late. There’s a huge dash for the door along with yelps of pejoratives and tripping over the cat. Time management can be a challenge for anyone, but some people (you know who you are!) have more of a problem with it than others. Hopefully, this little tip will help us all get to that meeting on time with every hair in place. The pressure of having to leave at a certain time can mean that we rebel. The thought that we ‘should’ be somewhere can lead part of us into not wanting to do it. In order to change your relationship with time, you’ll need to relax. To do this, simply estimate how long it might take for you to get ready. Here’s the clincher; make sure you don’t estimate the amount of time you might need on a good day. Estimate how long you’d need on a bad day to get ready. Be prepared for bad traffic, or an annoying Facebook notification, or the dishwasher flooding your apartment. Practice imagining yourself going through your morning with plenty of time and ease. It might not happen straight away, but if you visualize it enough times, rather than your inner voice saying ‘pfft, yeah, that will never happen’, it will begin to say ‘I like the sound of this’. Seeing a positive outcome means you will likely change your whole routine. Being able to see the real benefits of being on time allows you to feel more at ease with being on time, or even early!

Fear eats you

Rightnow, you’re living your life in fear. You probably don’t even realize it, but fear is controlling you – your life, your relationships, and your decision making. Don’t worry though, you’re not alone. In fact, everyone around you is going through the same thing. You see, fear is powerful and taught to us at a young age. You learn what you should do and what shouldn’t do to avoid punishment and discomfort, that things that naturally cause fear. Now that you’ve grown up, however, fear comes from a number of different sources. And if you don’t know the source of your fear, it is nearly impossible to overcome. In fact, it makes it easy for other people and situations to control you and your actions. Maybe you have always wanted to travel the world. Now, you work as a travel agent planning other people’s trips and you think, “close enough”. Or, maybe you imagined yourself in a romantic relationship. Instead, you find yourself with somebody who is “nice enough”. Settling is a sign that you fear your dreams and desires are unattainable. You fear failing to achieve your hopes, forgetting your innate resilience to overcome failure. You Get Sick Often Due to a Lot of Unknown or Unrecognized Fear Living with a lot of unknown or unrecognized fear can cause stress-like responses in your body. One of the most common stress-induced symptoms is feeling sick1. Have you had a sudden bout of unexplained gastrointestinal problems? Gaining weight but you haven’t changed your diet and exercise routine? Maybe you’re just feeling an overall sense of tiredness, body aches, and headache? Fear is weakening the resilience of your immune system.

Vegetable oils

Is oil healthy or unhealthy? If you’re like most people, your answer will be unhealthy. We associate oil with fat, and worry that it will make us gain weight. We think that too much oil can cause all sorts of harmful diseases. That’s somewhat true, but it doesn’t give us the full story. Most of the negative views we have around oil are based on highly-processed vegetable oils, which are often used in fast food, restaurants, and convenience foods. While these vegetable oils can be bad for you, they’re not the only options. Wait…what’s wrong with vegetable oil? There are various different types of vegetable oil, which include: Corn Sunflower Canola Soybean Unlike more natural oils, which can be obtained by pressing, vegetable oils are obtained through a complex chemical process. This process involves heating seeds to high temperatures, processing with a petroleum solvent, adding acid, and using deodorising chemicals. Doesn’t sound that appealing, does it? It’s been shown that cooking with vegetable oils can release toxic chemicals which have been linked to cancer, heart disease and dementia.  Many vegetable oils contain large amounts of trans fats, which are linked to obesity and various diseases, including cardiovascular disease. They can also increase your risk of conditions like asthma and eczema.