The most disagreeable individuals, who are also the least likely to be kind, can benefit most from behaving more compassionately, a York University study has found.
More than 640 people who were mildly depressed took part in the study wh...See more
Two months later, disagreeable participants who performed acts of kindness in close relationships showed the greatest reductions in depression and greatest increases in life satisfaction.
"Everybody needs people," says lead author Myriam Mongrain, Professor of Psychology in York's Faculty of Health. "As a result of their hostility and lack of cooperation, disagreeable types risk getting rejected or ostracized. There is a lot of conflict in their relationships, and they suffer the consequences. We found that providing concrete suggestions to those individuals, giving them ways in which they could express empathic concern in their close relationships was tremendously helpful."
Highly disagreeable people often lack empathy, even in their close relationships, said Mongrain.
"Implementing these new behaviours might have left them feeling affirmed and liked in their close social circle. This might have been the anti-depressant ingredient in this group," she said.
Mongrain adds the findings are particularly noteworthy given that the interventions were administered online and only required 10-15 minutes every other day. In other words, it was easy to implement, could be administered worldwide and had profound effects for some individuals.
In another exercise condition involving Loving Kindness Meditation, participants were asked to spend up to 10 minutes meditating on nurturing phrases such as "May you be happy" or "May you be safe." This exercise was of benefit to participants as a whole. However, when examining interactions effects with the disagreeable personality variable, the researchers found that it was the Acts of Kindness exercise that was most helpful for this subgroup.
Researchers say the results could have immediate practical applications for social scientists, policymakers, psychology researchers, and health practitioners. The widespread application of compassion interventions could contribute to a more humane and kinder society, particularly when targeted at those prone to hostility.
"It's like at the end of the story of the Grinch," says Mongrain. "When he took people in they said his heart grew three sizes bigger, and he also became happy. You can't be an island unto yourself. Sometimes those who are hostile say they don't need people, but at the end of the day, it does affect mood. People get very drained from disagreements with their spouse for example, so the toll that it takes is not to be minimized. This kind of intervention could be an antidote for those who are lacking in compassion."
The study is published in the journal, Translational Issues in Psychological Science.
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The Secret Formula to a Perfect Life
We’re taught to work and study hard since our childhood for a better tomorrow, but I feel that it’s the time for me at least, to stop and reflect how it works and if it’s the right way to live. People around the globe, most of them, think it’s worth their while to work hard today for wealthy years of retirement in distant future. But is the ability to have fun received in the age when one can’t barely walk by himself is worth it? These people usually end up losing joyful stuff to only realize that good times aren’t ever materialized. I suggest everyone, to aim for the “unrealistic” things like traveling the world which will set you apart from people thinking “realistically” and settling for mediocrity Plus, with most people aiming for the good stuff, the great stuff is available for a lot less fierce competition. Unlike people who spend living away from their dreams, taking safe roads of hard work with an illusion of joyful retirement. This has to stop because the perfect moment as per the people who are successful as well as happy to live your dreams is NOW. This fantasy-like life is nowadays more easily possible which only one thing that everyone needs; an automatic income: a source of money that can be managed effortlessly from anywhere on the planet with along an income that you can earn while sleeping. The best examples are people in Photography, writing, music, art business who can create their works anywhere and share using our super technology to anywhere with earning while the stuff is being sold everywhere even when they are in their sleep. Living a true life, from my experience is doing stuff that may seem unworthy but is Fun, because we only live once, having hard conversations which are Important because they’ll set you free and Disregarding conventions that others stick to because doing so will make you different. Which way of living are you gonna choose? What do you want me to write about? Tell me in the comments. Don’t forget to like, share & subscribe for more stuff like this.
How helpful is Mugging up?
Something about the most practiced way of scoring marks these days which is always mixed with “Studying” by most of the people. Be it school going children or college going students everyone’s major motto these days is to score marks and, they mug up to do that. The fact that the amount of knowledge we gain out of it is something different. Mugging up is one of the most common & practiced ways which is in trend these days and which will most probably stay in the education fraternity always. But the question which one should ask themselves is that “how helpful is mugging up to us?” or the reason why we practice it is just for the sake of getting some marks under our belt. For almost all the cases the answer will be to score marks only. For everyone out there, this should be a thing worth giving a thought about. Studies are supposed to enhance our knowledge & thinking about a subject but, mugging up takes it away from the purpose. When you mug up a topic, say gravity. You don’t think about the topic in and out or you don’t give yourself a reason why do we take the acceleration with the negative sign when an object is thrown upwards. This is a very basic example and everyone would know this by default. But, if this is the case about every topic which one mugs up, it is going to be a major problem and an issue which one should do something for. Education is meant to be understood with ample amount of reasons to fulfil its purpose in our lives rather than just remembering things before the night of an exam and writing it up on the next day. Undoubtedly, marks have their own importance which cannot be left out. But, at the same time, this importance should not come in the way of gaining knowledge. So, everyone should study with the thought of gaining something from it other than marks.
Life in a College
No matter how ready you are in your head for getting into college but, you'll be anxious as soon as you get into one. New friends, new environment and a whole lot of freedom. One may feel homesick too when they get into a college, especially the ones shifting away from their family for the first time may miss their family and friends which are natural and happens to almost everyone at some point in their lives. What one should focus on should be making friends with some common interests as they'll be the ones who'll stay with you for the span of next 3-4 years and we all love to be surrounded by our friends especially in hostels. In college, you should concentrate on both, studies and curricular activities. As far as studies are concerned unlike as in schools, people have to study mostly on their own, life in a college makes you able to work in deadlines. Apart from studies one should, read news, attend seminars, visit the library, and take part in the happenings in the campus and so on. Life at any college can be busy and a bit hectic at times but it'll all get to normal (maybe in a semester). One has to wake up by 7 to make it to the morning class on time and has to keep up with the pace till 11 in the night. Apart from the hectic schedule people get to learn a lot, experience a bunch of new things and, let's face it, college life is one unforgettable journey and everyone remember theirs and cherish it.
Stress as a phenomenon isn’t good for great. Homo sapiens tend to stress on anything, be it work, family, well-being, etc. Though, stress can be good in some cases in which people stress on something and then end up working harder which eventually leads them to their goal. But, 90% of the cases don’t go this way. People under stress are more prone and exposed to permanent diseases like blood pressure and in some severe cases, this can even lead to budding of heart problems. Stress Management is one of the cures which gives us a way to deal with the problem. Effective stress management leads to a healthier and happier life. Stress management involves a wide range of techniques and psychotherapies which control stress levels in a person’s life. Firstly, people should begin to realize within themselves about the cause for their stresses and whether the problems are temporary or permanent. Also, people should try and let go of unhealthy ways which they use to get over the stress in their lives, typical examples can be procrastination, smoking, junk food, sleeping more than the normal durations, etc. Secondly, one should try and avoid unnecessary stresses like worrying about results, worrying about some approaching exams rather than studying for them. Some of the most common stresses can be avoided with a bit of positive thinking. Also, the company of some people who stress a lot can lead you too to stress unnecessarily. People should try to alter problems by reframing them and trying to change perspectives about them, for example, there lies no point on stressing about an upcoming result, as, whether you stress about it or not, the result would have no changes in it, so why not keep calm about it. Stresses can also be sometimes related to some problems which you need to accept as you can’t change them and hence there is no point stressing over them. So, one should try and adapt to such issues in their lives. In the end, everyone should know that no issue or stress can ever be justified for giving up.
The Importance of Extra-Curricular Activities
Sports and Extra-Curricular Activities are very important for a student’s life. Both of these lead to the physical and social betterment of a student. Sports inculcate the habit of working together in teams, it develops a sense of companionship, it aspires everyone to develop leadership qualities in themselves, etc. Such qualities help students evolve to become better. Sports also demonstrates perhaps the most important characteristic in a human being i.e. “winning isn’t everything, participation makes a difference” everybody in the game desires to turn the game on their side but at the same time, the ultimate goal for everyone should be to give a healthy competition and one should make sure that they put up a decent fight out there. Participating in sports events sometimes can teach people about such things which could never be taught by any other media. Extra-Curricular Activities are the activities which aren’t involved in the basic curriculum of a school/university but still play a vital role in the overall development of a student. Extra-Curricular activities aid a student’s overall personality and blend perfectly with a student’s academic abilities, these may increase a student’s motivation and time management skills, which even makes them secure higher grades in their academics. These activities include from volunteering for NGOs, taking part in rallies/marathons for different causes, taking part in debates/MUNs, scouts, enrolling in the NCCs, participating in annual functions in schools/in fests for universities. Academics and extra-curricular activities complement each other and develop a well-rounded, socially skilled, and healthier student. Many students who excel in some extracurricular activities even get into universities under special recommendations too.