A few days back I was talking to one of my hostel friends with whom I share a great bond. It all went well until after being humourous for quite a while, he broke down lamenting “Thak gaya hun yaar zindagi se”.

I was baffled. Completely unnerved. I had had never expected him crumbling so miserably for, he is someone who has fought against so many odds all his life.

But his struggle for a job eventually tore him apart. He has been struggling for a job for more than a year now but couldn’t manage to get one yet.

In his voice choked in emotions, he lamented ” kuch ni ho Pa raha yaar. Sab settle ho rahe hain and me struggle hi kar raha hun”.

His words made me gutted with pain. I could feel the pain in his voice. The pain of loss. The pain of helplessness. Somehow, I held grip on myself and blurted out everything I could to make him feel better. I succeed. I succeed in taming the streak of negative emotions in him. I finally hanged up the call.

But one question that kept lingering in my mind after that was “what’s that made him feel miserable?

Was he despondent because he didn’t have a job or because his contemporaries had?

A big question. A very big question I realised it was.

“Turning 23. Done with the graduation.But no job. Sick of being considered the black sheep of the family, of hearing sarcasm, of my own insecurities and struggles. Everything seems to be falling apart. On the other hand, my contemporaries are going places and are better off.

Ugh. Heartburn taking toll on my heart and mind. Despondent I am to say the least. I just can’t take it. Don’t know how to clamber back. Life is turning upside down making me formidably down.”

Wait. Obsessed with these thoughts?

I know you are obsessed with all these intimidating and demeaning thoughts. We feel bad when we struggle and see others thriving. We may not express it but deep down in our heart, we feel bad.

We don’t have a job. This feels bad. But what feels more bad is others having it while we struggle. Isn’t it?

I know it is. I experience it.

But wait. You are not the only one going through this. Almost everyone goes through this in his 20s and move on. Yes. You read it right. People move on. So, don’t fret. it’s just the beginning. Your quest has just begun. I know you won’t stop feeling restless more so because every now and then you see your contemporaries hitting the mark. So what. 

Do you think just because they are having a lucrative job, they are better off ?

If yes and yes it’s yes, but you are utterly wrong. It’s just that Grass is always greener on the other side. You think that he is having a job and he is better off. At the Same time, he thinks “I am stuck in this miserable job, he is working hard and will make big”. Quite ridiculous it sounds but it is damn true.It’s an irony that joblessness and job, both are making people sick.

The matter of the fact is, At every point of time, everyone fights one battle or the other. The only difference is that your battle may not be same as theirs. After all, your story is not theirs and vice versa.

So, stop comparing yourself with others. While you think of your life, think only of your life. Turn a deaf ear and a blind eye to everything else.

Start investing in yourself.

Strive, Revive, Thrive !!!

Take a leap of faith and live your struggles. Feel bad and move on.

Work in silence. Success will scream.

Signing off is Nikhil jain !!!

Have a great time ahead !!!

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