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Feeling alone isn’t always synonymous with being alone. Most of us have experienced the feeling of loneliness when we’re with family, friends, or even a partner. On the flip side, sometimes we’ve felt content and connected when we were on our own. You’ve probably felt an aching sense of loneliness at the most unlikely times and wondered, how could I feel this way? The answer? You may not feel understood or loved by the people around you at that moment. You feel like they aren’t giving you something you need.
Here’s the punchline: they may have nothing to do with it! Your loneliness may be stemming from your lack of love and understanding for yourself.
Solitude is a powerful tool that can strengthen you and your relationship with others.1 People often underestimate its value. Because of suburban living, there are many who experience solitude very rarely and to whom the idea of being alone for a long period of time is a foreign concept. In most relationships, one or both of the people involved feels like they need to get their sense of identity from the other and that their partner is responsible for making sure they don’t feel alone. This is unrealistic and unreasonable.
The best relationships are formed between people who are totally comfortable and happy by themselves, but who choose to be with someone else because they love them. By learning to be alone, you can become more whole as a person, making every aspect of your life, including any relationships, indescribably better.
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Everyone Shows Love In A Different Way, Find Your Partner's Love Language Have you ever felt frustrated when your partner doesn’t understand you? Does it ever feel like the two of you speak a different language? The truth is, you probably do. Every single person in the world understands love and expresses it in a different way. You might have trouble understanding each other because you express love differently. This doesn’t mean that one of you loves the other any more or less. So how are we supposed to understand our partners if we speak different languages? Gary Chapman, relationship counselor and author, wrote a book about it – “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts.” By learning which language you speak and which language your partner speaks, you can make your relationship better. 1. Words of Affirmation 2. Acts of Service 3. Receiving Gifts 4. Quality Time 5. Physical Touc
Are you emotionally exploited ?
Are You Being Emotionally Exploited?Are You Being Emotionally Exploited? Have you ever been part of an interaction with another person that left you feeling drained, confused, and inadequate? You may have been dealing with an emotional manipulator. These people get an A+ in stealth coercion. Often times, you’ll walk away from these situations giving the other person exactly what he/she wanted without even realizing that you gave it to them in the first place. It may start out as a completely normal conversation. Maybe you came to them because something they said or did upset you and, like the grown up person you are, you pulled them aside to try and talk it out. Or, maybe there’s actually no conversation at all. Maybe this person is someone you have to be around a lot: An in-law, a co-worker, or a boss. Maybe he/she uses body language and nonverbal cues that make it more than clear that you aren’t welcome, accepted, or liked, but then when he/she speaks with you, it’s in the most polite and sincere tone you have ever heard. Emotional manipulators (or Machiavellian-Feeling Ninjas, as I like to call them) are skilled deceivers. They usually have high emotional intelligence and can bend and shape any social interaction to their advantage. They are shrewd observers, taking in the communication around them and easily establishing a baseline on individuals which they will use to analyze that person’s strengths and weaknesses. They may even ask probing questions in conversational tones in order to get a better fix on you. Once they have you down, they’ll use their knowledge to exert dominance over you.
why in a relationship ?
You Don't Have To Be In A Relationship To Be Happy, You Just Need To Understand Yourself Your life feels incomplete, so what’s the first thing that you do? You start looking for your perfect match, the person who can fill that big hole in your heart and change your life forever. You may feel like each relationship you try is a dead-end. There’s something dissatisfying about each of them, but you can’t give up. You’re afraid of being on your own because you’re afraid that you’re incapable of being happy on your own. In reality, being alone and learning to strengthen your relationship with yourself can be rewarding and liberating and will help you find true and lasting happiness. What Feeling Alone Really Means Feeling alone isn’t always synonymous with being alone. Most of us have experienced the feeling of loneliness when we’re with family, friends, or even a partner. On the flip side, sometimes we’ve felt content and connected when we were on our own. You’ve probably felt an aching sense of loneliness at the most unlikely times and wondered, how could I feel this way? The answer? You may not feel understood or loved by the people around you at that moment. You feel like they aren’t giving you something you need. Here’s the punchline: they may have nothing to do with it! Your loneliness may be stemming from your lack of love and understanding for yourself. How Learning to Be Alone Can Enrich Your Relationships Solitude is a powerful tool that can strengthen you and your relationship with others.1 People often underestimate its value. Because of suburban living, there are many who experience solitude very rarely and to whom the idea of being alone for a long period of time is a foreign concept. In most relationships, one or both of the people involved feels like they need to get their sense of identity from the other and that their partner is responsible for making sure they don’t feel alone. This is unrealistic and unreasonable. The best relationships are formed between people who are totally comfortable and happy by themselves, but who choose to be with someone else because they love them. By learning to be alone, you can become more whole as a person, making every aspect of your life, including any relationships, indescribably better.
Make a conversation with anyone
Let’s start with a question: how many of you know the people who are living on the same floor as you? If yes, then do you remember first conversation you had with that person? Conversations are links, which means when you have a conversation with a new person a link gets formed and every conversation you have after that moment will strengthen the link. You meet new people everyday; the grocery worker, the cab driver, new people at work or the security guard at the door. Simply starting a conversation with them will form a link. Now imagine your life with these conversation links. How many you can remember? Believe me, I tried but after 20 I forgot the count. It’s like a world wide web of conversation links, which can give you a whole new perspective. A conversation opens a door, conversation can make war and it can make peace as well. Conversation defines who we are as a human race. Think about it, you will begin knowing nothing about every single person in your life right now – the single thing that breaks the ice is the first conversation. Here are 7 simple ways that you can make the first move and start a conversation with strangers. 1. Just say it-hey, hy 2. Skip the small talk 3. Find the “me too”s 4. Pay a unique compliment 5. Ask for an opinion 6. Be present 7. Name, places, animal, things-remember about him
An Encomium: Digging Deep to Explore
A smile is the beginning of peace; in acceptance, there is peace; a soft voice in our heart is the sound of peace and what not Peace is liberty in tranquillity. It is in human constitution that one tends to be influenced by the power of nature, its ability to remain soothing and calm even in the midst of grievous storms; for even then the sun shines bright on every stone, the water bathes the spirit of all the sand off dirt and the sky yet wraps and protects them all from any harm. And it is thus even more relevant when we say that “You cannot find peace by avoiding life”. Peace is not merely a five letter word that we imbibe within ourselves but it is our state of being. Peaceful is the real nature of humankind and war merely a substitute to maintain it – for even though soldiers might fight, and wars might commence and destroy yet the butterflies look beautiful to all living souls likewise. Hence peace is not something that can be contained in a random set of words that intend to define it but yes indeed it is an abstract entity that forms the essence of our lives yet remains unidentifiable on physical grounds. And as one such naturalist once quoted: Peace is not something you wish for; it’s something you make, something you do, something you are and something you give away.” Therefore, peace is righteously a reward in itself and the utmost goal of everyone’s life. World Peace is a subject that has far gone a number of interpretations in itself to evolve to what it has become today. While a considerable part of the world defines it as the harmonious relationship between people despite all divisions of race, culture etc; there still is a part of the population that compares it with the extinction of wars and violence. And to rule out the righteousness of each is a grave offence. Peace is often found to be unanimous with the feeling of brotherhood among fellow citizens and in accordance it thus reduces the likes of wars and violence. So in these contexts it very well justifies the saying that “Peace is a noun that acts as a verb”. But still we are well aware of an intellectual genius who once quoted: “Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without”. And it is this that revolves around the central idea and definition of the term peace, contrary to the present assumption. Peace henceforth can be stated as a state of mental calm and sooth where one tends to un-prompt, prohibit and prevent all actions and thoughts that may be the cause of hurtful events. These are thus the three P’s of peace!! And it is when these three principles are employed to affect a large population of people all around the world that we symbolise it with the term WORLD PEACE. So like the magnanimity of the idea of being at peace – where everyone tends to call oneself peaceful until provoked to act unlike – the world portrays to remain at peace until it encounters rifts amongst its citizens. And it’s with effect that this defined portrait roots in our minds and follows our personal ideals of a peaceful world. Yet there are people who dare to differ from this viewpoint. Buddha once said “The foot feels the foot when it feels the ground”. In other words he held on to fact that it is but the human itself that is the carrier, vector and messenger of peace. He defined peace as a state of mind – mind which itself has no identity hence no boundaries and structure- which controls our state of being. Therefore, he pointed at the large extent of how these five letters’ word PEACE, spans our lives in all spheres- yet remaining unknown and unfelt. Even the Hindu mythology describes the human body as a small sized depiction of the whole universe. In other words taken together all the religions of the ‘geographical’ world point to the fact that indeed it is, but the human body itself that is THE REAL WORLD. And in the same context “world peace” yet begs to another spiritual interpretation. It leads to the idea that since the world is but within us, so it is but the peace of our own self that matters and makes a difference. And that is what I believe emulates as the meaning of world peace when we say that peace (world peace) cannot be achieved by force but by understanding. And in the same line, this understanding is but a result of our harmony with our thoughts and actions. For indeed everything can be stained But not that inner voice, And no one can be blamed but Our own thoughts and our own choice! Therefore the world does aptly remain at unexpressed and unsought wars all the time, rifts amongst people continue to exist while a poet’s pen rages forward to write – Until to what’s been set to wrong Peace is rightfully done We can hope well by seeing the darkness Give birth to the sun….
A PHILOSOPHICAL TAKE ON AUGMENTED REALITY
The adaptability of the idea of Augmented Reality, amongst the general population initiated with the involvement of AR bounded games and application, like Pokémon Go and Google Ingress. And within no time these applications took over the minds of the geeky population. At such a moment, we felt it was really important to critically analyze the pros and cons of the thunder, that has started to take over the lives of humans. Will it take over the reality? Is it actually the reality? Are we living in a space of illusion? Is it the time to get enlightened? Or it is just a wave which needs us to hold back our position?