Knowledge in Counseling Psychology
Can money buy happiness? Yes! But conditions apply
First, according to science, when a person starts earning above an average estimated income, he starts losing the greed or fun that he thought he will get when he wished for that income. Just like that toy which you wanted most, but you lose interest when you actually get it along time. So, Yes! The Money will give you a kind of happiness which will also be a limited period offer! At the end of life, Money<Life! We spend all our life running after green paper and on our last time, realise that it wasn’t the thing you really needed. Actually, “I wish, I didn’t work so hard” is the second most popular regret that people had on their deathbed, after “I wish I had been true to myself” which simply tells us that what matters in life is not the temporary fame or fulfilment, but the long-run love, satisfaction & Happiness. Whenever I am not sure about choosing between a high paying job and a job I love, I ask myself a simple question that What will I get? If I chosen the “High Paying” job, it will get me more money, more money means more satisfaction, security & power which will lead to a happy & fulfilled life. Right? Wrong! Because that job will also cost me my family, friends & me time along the death of many of my talents & dreams leading to a life which look good from upside, but has an emptiness inside. In the other case, if I got the job I love, I would pursue my dreams & talents, get more time for myself and lead a life which maybe, only maybe is less luxury but way more satisfying & beautiful, both from inside & outside. In the end, I will just leave you with this quote of Billionaire Steve Jobs, “Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me. Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful… that’s what matters to me.”
Goutam Ahuja
Swach (Me)
When the SWACH BHARAT CAMPAIGN started, it brought in a lot of Awareness in our society about keeping our environment clean. It was great to see people from all walks of life cleaning the garbage on the road and keeping their surroundings clean. It was a great campaign and we should definitely clean the garbage around us for our well-being and the well-being of society :-) But, have you ever wondered about SWACH (Me) ? I personally believe that if I am clean inside, I will definitely maintain cleanliness outside :-) Let us go a little deeper into this subject. When I talk about being "clean inside", I don't mean brushing my teeth, etc. I mean, have I looked deep inside of me and try to change my Negatives into Positives? It’s easy to preach to others to change, but it takes a lot of Courage, Strength, Willingness & Humility to change ourselves. In my 50 years of my life I have come across only one man who has the humility and the willingness to change himself – Once a year he goes to his wife and asks her to tell him his strengths & weaknesses, because he wants to be a better husband. Then he goes to his daughter and asks her to tell him his strengths & weaknesses because he wants to be a better father. After that he goes to his close friend and asks him to tell him his strengths & weaknesses, because he wants to be a better person. WOW :-) He keeps on trying to be A BETTER HUMAN BEING :-) BIBLE - The sinful nature of a human being wants to do evil, which is just the opposite of what God wants. And God gives us desires that are the opposite of what the sinful nature desires. These two forces are constantly fighting each other, so you are not free to carry out your good intentions. When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the Negative Qualities are : Jealousy Outbursts of anger Sexual immorality Impurity Lustful pleasures Sorcery Hostility Quarreling Selfish ambition Dissension Division Envy, Drunkenness Wild parties Getting angry and reacting fast Reaching a place late Laziness Carrying unforgiveness towards people Impatience Intolerance towards people Being abusive Being rude Low self esteem Hatred Addictions Watching pornography Being non-assertive Being irresponsible Arrogance Pride, etc But, Godly Living produces Positive Qualities like : Love Joy Peace Patience Kindness Goodness Faithfulness Gentleness Self-control Assertiveness Forgiving others Tolerance Compassion Non-judgmental Respect for others Holy lifestyle Helping and serving others Responsible Purity of heart High self esteem Self-control Humility, etc (Galatians 5:17, 19-22) If I really want the BEST out of life, why don't I give my BEST to life ? In other words, why don't I introspect and see which are the areas I need to change in myself? What are my weaknesses ? Once I am aware of my weaknesses and I make an EFFORT to change my Weaknesses into Strengths, that's what I call as SWACH (Me) and that is GODLY WISDOM :-) And once you start cleaning your inside and change your Negatives into Positives, then automatically you will be : A Better Husband A Better Wife A Better Daughter A Better Son A Better Father A Better Mother A Better Student A Better Teacher A Better Brother A Better Sister A Better Employee A Better Manager A Better Businessman A Better Boss, etc OVERALL YOU WILL BE A BETTER HUMAN BEING :-) And once you are a Good Human Being on the inside, then naturally you will not throw garbage outside. you will not judge people. you will not be rude with others, etc. Let's take this as a Challenge. Let's introspect ourselves and change our Weaknesses into Strengths :-) How do we do this Exercise ? Its very simple - Sit down in a quiet place with a notebook and a pen. Then introspect yourself and go deep into your nature and see which are your Good and Bad Qualities and write them down. After writing down all your Good and bad Qualities in the notebook, have a look at it. When you see your Good Qualities in the notebook, pat yourself at the back and appreciate yourself :-) And when you see the Bad Qualities in the notebook, make a note of it and change those Bad Qualities into Good Qualities :-) Change those Weaknesses into Strengths :-) Yes, you cannot change overnight. But, MAKE A START. Remember, any Habit, whether Good or Bad, is formed with Practice. So, if you start Changing your Weaknesses into Strengths and keep on and on and on and on working on it, then one day will come that you will become AN AWESOME HUMAN BEING, having AN AWESOME PERSONALITY :-) And whatever work you do, it will be EXCELLENT and you will PROSPER in every area of your Life :-) You will Prosper in your education, job, business, health, relationships, finances, etc :-) THEN YOU WILL BE HAPPY, THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU WILL BE HAPPY, GOD WILL BE HAPPY WITH YOU & THE WHOLE ENVIRONMENT AROUND YOU WILL CHANGE FOR THE BETTER :-) You will SHINE and INDIA will SHINE like a DIAMOND for the Glory of God :-) NOTE : I am a Counselor, so if you need guidance on how to change your weaknesses into strengths, then feel free to msg me on my WhatsApp No, 9880162325 and I will guide you. God bless, Amit
Amit KM
Be Grateful
BE GRATEFUL ? The qualification that gave you a job is the same qualification someone has who still does not have a job. Be grateful. The prayer that God answered for you is the same prayer others have been praying but without success. Be grateful. The road you use safely on a daily basis is the same road where many others lost their precious lives. Be grateful. The temple in which God blessed you is the same temple other people too worship in, yet their lives are still in discord. Be grateful. The bed you used in the hospital, you got healed and were discharged is the same bed many other people breathed their last. Be grateful. The rain that made your field produce good crops is the same rain that devastated someone else's field. Be grateful. Be grateful because whatever you have is not by...your power, your might, your talent or your qualifications.. but it's just the "Grace of God." HE is the giver of everything you have... For everything you have... Be Grateful ? God bless, Amit
Lifeskills Workshop
URGENT NEED FOR TAKING LIFE-SKILLS WORKSHOP IN SCHOOLS & COLLEGES I have often spoken to School & College Principals about organising a Life-Skills Workshop in their Instititution. When I talk with the School & College Management, I tell them the Importance of this Workshop and I give them examples like "How do you tell a child to focus on his studies when his father is beating his mother in the house everyday under the influence of alcohol"? OR "How do you tell a teenager to focus on his or her studies when he or she is going through a relationship problem"? And then I tell them that along with academics, we need to equip our students and youth with Appropriate Life-Skills to handle all issues of life Positively, then they will be able to focus better on their studies and their grades will improve. So, keeping that in mind, I take Life-Skills Workshops at Schools/Colleges/Management Institutes with regards to problems faced by the youth.The topics that I cover are: smoking / drugs/ alcohol low self esteem difference between infatuation & love relationship issues like possessiveness, how to handle breakups, peer pressure assertiveness how to overcome hurts consequences of unforgiveness moral values positive attitude decision making negative effects of anxiety how to overcome fear harmful effects of pornography prevention of suicides leadership qualities fear of rejection negative emotions and their effect on health therapeutic effects of forgiveness overcoming childhood hurts having a winning attitude marriage tips & an insight into parenting skills, etc. I have already taken these Life-Skills Workshops & Sessions on the above-mentioned topics in the following colleges: Christ University St. Joseph College Cathedral PU College National Law School of India University BTL Institute of Technology Francis De Sales College Oxford College CMR Institute of Technology MARC School of Business Andhra Loyola Institute of Engineering & Technology Mt. Carmel Institute of Management, etc. This Lifeskills Workshop will equip the students with the RIGHT LIFE-SKILLS TOOLS to handle all issues of life Positively and will help them to be HAPPY & SUCCESSFUL in Life :-) My aim in life is that everyone should be equipped with PROPER LIFE-SKILLS to handle all their Personal & Professional issues of Life POSITIVELY and receive GOD'S ABUNDANT BLESSINGS :-) I had taken a 6 Hour Workshop on all youth–related issues entitled “Winning is an Attitude” at Andhra Loyola Institute of Engineering & Technology on 10th November, 2012. The Press and the Journalists from The Hindu had also come to the college to cover the Program and they published it in the Hindu Newspaper on 12th November, 2012. Please open the link below to read the article. http://www.thehindu.com/todays-paper/tp-features/tp-educationplus/its-all-in-the-attitude/article4088867.ece#.UKBuHk5PqPM.gmail NOTE: If anyone amongst you'll wants me to take this Lifeskills Workshop in your school or college, then kindly contact me at 9880162325. God bless, Amit
My YouTube Channel Videos
I have posted TWENTY SEVEN VIDEOS till now on my YouTube Channel, PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT - GODLY STANDARD. The Videos are: 1) Introduction & Motivation 2) When you want help, ask for it...Part 1 3) When you want help, ask for it...Part 2 4) An attitude of gratitude 5) Be different 6) Appeal to the principals of schools and colleges - Lifeskills Workshop 7) True Love (Part 1)...5 love languages 8) True Love (Part 2)...10 negative qualities which can destroy a relationship or marriage 9) True Love (Part3)..Key investments to make your relationship or marriage more beautiful 10) Be creative 11) Parents - Please don't be overprotective over your children 12) Discipline or criticize privately - Appreciate publicly 13) Humble request - Spread the word 14) Failure is a stepping stone towards success. 15) Do not judge others 16) Thin line between friendship & relationship - Be careful. 17) Why me God? Why not me? 18) How to deal with stress during exams. 19) Mighty Miracles (Orphanage trip to Goa) 20) Mighty Miracles (How God saved me from goondas) 21) Prayer 22) Prayer...Contd. 23) Mighty Miracles (How God saved me from death - An accident with a truck) 24) How to increase your confidence level 25) Love is not lust 26) Do not make a boyfriend or girlfriend due to peer pressure or status symbol 27) Leadership quality - Assertiveness (Part 1) You will not get HAPPINESS, PEACE and SUCCESS automatically. You need certain skillsets. And my videos will Equip you with those Skillsets to be Happy, Peaceful & Successful in Life ?? God will not come down and answer your prayers. God will use people to guide you in the Right Direction. As I have seen so much tears and suffering of people as a Counselor in the last 15 years, God put it on my heart to start my own Youtube Channel, so that I can guide society through my Videos and their lives are SAVED, BLESSED and TRANSFORMED for the Glory of God ?? So, watch my videos and be Blessed ?? Kindly go to my YouTube Channel, "PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT -GODLY STANDARD", Subscribe first and then watch all my videos when you are free. When you reach my channel, you may get an Error Message (This channel doesn't have any content) Don't worry about that error message. Go on top of the screen and Click on VIDEOS and you will see all my 27 videos. I will be recording and uploading many videos on current, social topics. kindly ask your friends and relatives also to SUBSCRIBE to my channel and watch my videos, as these videos will equip them with Proper Life-Skills to handle all issues of life Positively ? Plus, the KNOWLEDGE that they will receive through my videos will lead them towards PEACE, HAPPINESS & GOD'S ABUNDANT BLESSINGS ?? I PRAY that God will speak to you through my videos and your life will be Blessed for the Glory of God ?? God bless, Amit
Keep On Doing Good Even If You Get Bad In Return
When you do something good for people, don't expect that in return they will show kindness to you. That's one of the biggest mistakes we can make. The root of all hurts is expectations. We do good for people. People receive good from us and then they forget. Just because people who received good from you forgot the good that you did to them and they don't repay your goodness with goodness, that should NOT change you from doing good to people. You like doing good to people because YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON ? God has put this Beautiful Quality in you to do "Good" for people, so dont change your Beautiful Nature for some ungrateful people who don't understand you. Continue doing good to people even if you get bad in return ? In the last 16 years of Social Work that I am doing, I have showered my father's love on thousands of young people, guiding and mentoring them to be happy and successful in life. Sometimes I receive phone calls at 2 am in the morning from students and young people who are disturbed and want guidance on some issues. Many times I take young people to doctors when they have health issues, as they stay in a PG in Bangalore because their parents stay in another state. I feed physically challenged people on many occasions. I counsel and guide hundreds of students and elders on the phone whenever they have problems and many times I meet young people outside whenever they want to share their personal problems with me and I guide them as a father-figure and their best friend. In the process of doing good to people, in return, many times people have hurt me and left me. At times I have even received threatening calls from people. But, I still continue to do good for society. And I will never stop doing good to people, as this is a Godly Assignment in my life. Whenever I do something good for someone, I have a Heavenly, Blessed Experience :-) I do good to people for the Glory Of God and I know that God will reward me in His Time :-) So, Keep on doing good to people even if you get bad in return :-) The Society may not understand you, but God does :-) God sees your Beautiful, Caring, Loving and Compassionate Heart and He will REWARD you in His Time :-) MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND USE YOU AS A BLESSING FOR OTHERS :-):-):-) God bless, Amit
When I chased happiness, I found emptiness
One fine evening, I was sitting on the rooftop cherishing solitude. I was feeling the cool breeze kissing me. Suddenly, a thought crossed my mind and I went beside myself ruminating the times when I wanted something badly. So badly that I would have done anything and everything just to get that. And I realised every time I fulfil my wishes, my mood swings completely and I no longer cherish the things I get as much as I used to, earlier. It’s like I am insatiable. I never feel satisfied and start looking for other fishes in the sea. Consequently, I never feel happiness within. There persists a sense of perpetual emptiness in my heart. I keep tormenting myself thinking- “if I had this, my life would be perfect; if I had that, my life would be perfect”. There is no end to such absurdness and hence no peace within. That day, I couldn’t resist harping on myself questioning- Why enough is never enough ? Why do the objects of desire lose their sheen with time ? what’s the sense of such a life when you have everything yet no peace within ? These question sent shockwaves into my heart. I felt as though I was a wretch who had everything yet nothing for, I couldn’t recall even a single thing that makes me happy all the time. All of my life, I had been chasing the pleasures which were good from far but far from good. Nothing could really tame my restless soul. Really, the biggest irony of the life is: To all of us, the material things are more endearing than the dear ones. There is nothing wrong in pursuing happiness but what’s wrong is our means. We resort to material things to extract happiness but the fact is: sooner or later, all they can extract is sheer pain. We are looking for instant pleasure but that brings with it the lasting pain but it gets too late when we realise it. It was for the first time in my life that I realised that the essence of life lies in cherishing what we have instead of grieving for what we don’t, because this is the only way to find happiness within and around us. I heard people talking about this thing myriad times but never ever felt it in a heartfelt way. May be because I’m too much into rat race to be able to find any moments of solitude to introspect. But since that day onwards, I extractsuch moments of solitude and realising that indeed, solitude is bliss. A few minutes of self talk and a heartfelt gratitude at the end of the day is more than enough to keep me bonded with myself. I have been doing this for sometime now and I feel the quality of my life is enhancing profoundly. Do you also find yourself in the same boat ? If yes, do introspect and realise what’s actually worth running after. This may change your way of looking at life. Signing off is NIKHIL JAIN !!!! Have a great time ahead !!!! For more articles, visit www.nikhiljainsblog.wordpress.com
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