Ever wondered why there are some people who fit into the convention of beauty and yet are not as popular as opposed to an average Jill or Joe, who garners far more attention? The secret to attractiveness doesn’t lie in your features, your clothes or even your groomed personality. It lies in your emotions! What’s The Measure of Attractiveness? New research by Silke Anders, a professor of Social and Affective Neuroscience at the University of Lübeck, indicates that most people are drawn to people who understand their emotions the best.1 So basically, if someone ‘gets’ us, we find them attractive. And the opposite is also true. The more certain we are of thinking that we know what the other person is feeling; the more attracted we are to him, or her. It’s about the sending of emotional signals and of perceiving them – which sounds pretty simple in theory but is often not. Most of us tend to hide the visual cues of our emotions and become pretty adept at it. But it’s this very quality that becomes a roadblock in our levels of attractiveness. To be more attractive to others, we need to be more of an open book than a secretive one and let people see what we are feeling by facial cues. Can This Quality Be Adapted? To make yourself more attractive to others, you need to project your emotions as clearly as possible. The more comprehensible emotions that you project to others, the more your levels of attractiveness increase – if a person is able to judge what you are feeling accurately because of your clear emotional projection, then his or her brain’s reward system fires up and in doing so – makes you more attractive in that person’s eyes. Remember that this is not an advice to let the waterworks flow; just don’t try to be stoic all the time. Let those lips droop when sad, or those eyes sparkle in happiness – the more people are able to read you, the more attractive they will find you. A Last Bit of Advice Instead of letting the whole world and sundry see what we are feeling, perhaps it better to let our guard down when with someone that we find attractive, and who we want to perceive our attractiveness. And once in a relationship, it’s a good thing to keep working at our emotional projection then too – for we want our significant others to keep perceiving our attractiveness in a good, healthy way…
The idea that possessions make us happy is an illusion. Putting all our happiness into things and even people or past experiences is ultimately allowing us to cultivate a notion that happiness doesn’t come from within — that it’s reliant on outside circumstances and objects. We put so much emphasis on what our possessions mean to us that we conclude, that having these things in our life must be what’s bringing us happiness. However, what if we just let things go? Whether it’s a person or a possession, letting go can feel painful and we often wonder how can pain possibly bring happiness? Our mind tends to focus on the illogical aspect of this but in essence, letting go of things will lead us to live much more happy and fulfilling lives. Let Go of the Idea That Happiness Is Contained In Your Current Possessions This is a huge misconception. Whether it’s that pair of shoes, the car, the latest smartphone, or the person we’ve been longing after — our mind believes that our lives will get better and we’ll be happier only when these things enter into our lives. And yes, they might make us feel excitement and joy for a short while but our ability to adapt to our environments and what’s in it causes us to get bored easily and move on to the next thing that’ll bring us happiness again. Even in relationships, we believe a certain person will make us happy but sometimes you find out they just don’t. So it’s important to let go of the idea that happiness can be found by external means. If you let go of this idea you will come to realize that nothing around you contributes to your happiness other than inside yourself. Let Go of What You Can’t Control Let Go of Your Past Possessions Let Go of The People Who Don’t Serve Your Present Pain, More Often Than Not, Leads To Happiness
What Sadists Are Actually Thinking And Why Nodoubt you saw this coming, the novel Fifty Shades of Gray by E.L. James has transformed and fetishized the sadomasochist dynamic. There has been a movement if you will of primarily women who wish to nurture their inner freak, ideally at the hands of a handsome and complicated billionaire. Ahh, Harley Quinn, the sexy and shall we say quirky super villain who is notorious for her obedience and devotion to the manipulative and sadistic Joker. In the film Suicide Squad, Harley literally throws herself into a vat of toxic waste to prove her undying commitment to her psychotically endearing counterpart. Although their relationship is clearly a case of cut and dry domestic abuse, there is something alluring about their compatibility. Stepping outside of the world of literature and fantasy, some of our beloved and renowned celebrities have a dark and sadomasochistic side of a sexual nature. Angelina Jolie is not bashful when it comes to disclosing intimate details about her sexual urges. Rhianna is another example, proclaiming her naughty side with lyrics such as, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but chains and whips excite me.” But has sexiness in sadism been overrated these days?
We’ve all been there before, head over heels in love and sure our partner is “the one”. We spend every waking moment together and dream about what the future will bring. We’re sure this is the deepest love we’ve ever felt. And then the day comes when the relationship doesn’t work out. Those breakups can be the most painful and often leave us asking ourselves, “what happened?” When you’re young, it can be easy to commit the biggest relationship mistake in the dating world: Thinking love is enough to sustain a relationship. Patty Smyth had it right when she sang, “Baby, sometimes love just ain’t enough.” But don’t worry. You’re not alone. Everybody experiences this relationship mistake at one time or another. It’s all part of learning more about ourselves. How to Avoid the Biggest Relationship Mistake Maybe you’re thinking, how can the biggest relationship mistake be thinking that love is enough? What more could a relationship possibly need? The answer is: plenty. When you rely on love alone to sustain your relationship, it can be easy to forget about some other very important factors. But don’t worry, we’re going to take a look at just what’s missing from these relationships. 1.Trust 2.Understanding 3.Respect 4.Communication 5.Be Able to Spend Time Apart 6.Support
ECHOED VOICE What is love at first is for me? "What her eyes said echoed in my heart", yes she was like this only epitome of beauty, talent and success. The movements of her hand while explaining something cannot be personified, I think they are from a different world, a world of attraction because they attract me like the south pole of a magnet and i being the north one. Yes she got something in her style, in her attitude. Oh! My god she is full of beauty in every respect, And I being the laziest lad, poor in studies, sports and extracurricular activities and she was an overflow of talents in all these fields. We both are incomparable in any respect. She can outshine me in any field of my choice even. I do not stand even the slightest of chance against her. One day she encountered me staring at her in the class and suddenly a sense of embarrassment with shyness passed through me. Oh! My God those 2-3 seconds her eyes echoed in my heart and it starts racing like a horse. It was like her eyes were saying "keep staring at me like this, i can feel your eyes discovering me". That day i found a thing called "love at first sight". A silent “I love you”. That day she kept on running in my mind. Days, weeks, months and years passed and i kept on staring at her for long duration in between boring lectures, sometimes my teachers, my classmates, my friends, her friends and sometimes she herself caught me staring at her. There are only two things that make me stand out of the queue from all her silent lovers and they are my write-ups and my poems, my only tool to dig deep inside her heart and make a place for me. She started noticing my write-ups and started following my social media page where i post most of my short stories and especially poems. Don't know what made her crazy about one of those poems, that she came and hugged me so tightly. My whole body feels a trance shock, i could barely feel her presence and then suddenly my hearts starts racing like it was one of the participant in F1 racing. And that day i discovered "love". She asked "it's me”?, i asked “what it's me”?. She replied in your stories write-ups and poems it’s me. For a second i felt proud on my write-ups and poems and then i realized the only female following my page was her. A sudden expression of proud i passed over my pen. And in the meanwhile time she was gone, don't know where but she was there where she was, yes, in my arms. For a second i thought i was day-dreaming but no it is happening in real. My eyes started searching for her but she was not there. On that day i just had one thought and that thought was "she". One fine day i started approaching her in my mind and then i decided to wrap it up, and started trying to convince my mind just tell her, each and everything from top to bottom, from front to rear, from far to near. I went near her, when no one was there besides the library and asked her to give her hands. In my mind i was like - god it’s up to you. I kept on asking for her hand but she responded nothing. I asked again and said "i love you” i love you hey! Beauty be mine from now till eternity. She stood there firmly and said nothing but her eyes said something - it’s a silent "love u too idiot".
What’s important to you? Your morning coffee? Making time to walk your dog? Getting that assignment to your boss on time? Okay, but what’s valuable to you? According to Atlantic Magazine, 7 out of 10 Americans say people’s values have been getting worse in America over the past decade.1 What are your personal values? What Are Values? Your values are a testament to your true self, because they are what matter most to you when it comes to personal and professional life. Your values influence that little voice in your head that tells you whether or not to care about something, and how you should prioritize your time. What Should I Do With My Core Values? Just sit down and make a list of what comes to mind, and let yourself explore those core values words. There is no set limit on how many values you can have, but allow yourself to list as many as you can.
You may be thinking that all of this is easier said than done. That’s understandable. We all have a certain amount of programming and bad habits in our brains that can sometimes make change difficult. But we are nothing if not flexible. There are several things you can start doing right now that will help you to understand yourself and maybe even enjoy your own company. Go on quiet walks on your own in nature. Nature puts us in tune with our mind and body and relieves depression. Enjoying nature for a little while every day can help you feel more content in being alone with yourself . Journal. Don’t worry about whether or not you’re a good writer. In fact, don’t worry about what you’re writing about at all. Use the “stream of consciousness” technique.Journaling can be a great way to vent and relieve tension and can help you reach a better understanding of your own mind. You needn’t devote much time to this activity unless it feels right. Five to ten minutes should suffice. Use art of any kind. Whether it’s music, painting, or just coloring, art is an invaluable tool to help you connect with your deeper self in a more meaningful level. Many people use coloring to put their mind into a meditative or calm state when traditional meditation doesn’t work for them. Meditate. Meditating is probably one of the most tried and true methods to help you gain a deeper understanding and love for yourself. Just remember if it’s your first time, not to be discouraged if you can’t completely relax into a meditation. The key to a happy life isn’t a happy relationship. The trick is to realize that you’re beautiful, wonderful, and whole all by yourself. Take some time to get to know the wonderful being that is you. The only side effects are increased happiness and health!
Asthe amount of fitness information available is getting bigger, the chances of being exposed to bad advice are also growing, creating more fitness myths than ever. Yet, one of the most debatable myths that has been out there forever is the myth of working out on an empty stomach. It has been a prevailing thought for decades that you shouldn’t eat or drink prior to working out, and it seems that only recently the public has started questioning its accuracy. All research considered, a fed workout actually has more scientifically proven benefits to overall health, fitness, weight loss, and workout performance, as opposed to fasted training. It may seem like fasted training aids in body fat loss, but in the long run, it actually has counterproductive effects, as the body starts to store fat and burn less calories as a precaution. Additionally, the studies show far greater and longer effects on burning body fat with fed training than those of a fasted. Moreover, the decreased appetite shown in groups who performed fed training is another reason for people who want to shed some weight to enjoy a light meal before a workout in order to prevent later cravings. Finally, for reaching new higher goals in fitness and training, a fed workout is again a much more productive option, since the calories provide enough energy for extra effort.
The More We Allow Ourselves To Do Silly Things, The More Confident We Become How should a confident person be like? Someone who does everything well, believes in his competence, and has pride in his achievements? Or someone who does stupid things occasionally in front of others? The former description might seem to fit the typical definition of confident people. Innumerable articles and discussions tell us that to be more confident, we need to remind ourselves of what we have achieved whenever we doubt ourselves. But what if the answer is the other way round? In fact, the ones who are more willing to accept their idiocies are more confident. Some people are not really that confident. We are conscious of our competence and achievements because they are probably the only solid things in our lives to prove our abilities and strengths. We say Usain Bolt is an excellent sprinter not just because he is physically strong but because he has the ability to break world records. The recognition and pride that come from within are our sources of confidence. But in the long term, if we will care too much about our dignity and overestimate our importance, we will easily avoid situations that threaten them. Let’s say if Bolt were someone who cared much about his dignity, it is very likely that he would refuse when someone invited him to participate in any competition as he would fear that failure would damage his image as a great runner. Confidence built upon our competence achievements might not be something that we should look for. Accept our stupidity is the way to build true confidence. Make fun of yourself! Allowing yourself to make mistakes and laugh at yourself afterwards is the key to build your confidence. If you are a lost tourist, you can embrace your innocence and kindly ask for direction despite the fact that people might regard you with contempt. But it’s totally fine. You can simply laugh at yourself for not getting well-prepared for your trip. When you laugh at yourself more often, you will realize that you don’t need to be perfect to be accepted. We can do nothing about our stupidity as it is an inborn quality of the human race. How great it is to know that even the greatest people are as stupid as we are! The true confidence we have will allow us to give things a go and accept whatever happens to us.
Psychologists Say This Effect Makes People Become Biased And Feel Lonely Have you ever felt like you were the only one to experience a certain thought, problem or emotion? Feeling this way can be extremely isolating, leading to loneliness and a bias towards negativity. However, just because you feel different to everyone else, it doesn’t mean that you are. Psychologists have concrete psychological evidence on how similar our hopes, dreams, and fears really are, and how we can use this information to feel happier, healthier, and more motivated. An identical personality description can apply to many people. In 1948, a psychologist named Bertram Forer told his students that he was going to present them each with an individualized sketch of their personality. What the students didn’t know was that each sketch was exactly the same. The sketch consisted of twelve points, which included the following:1 1.You have a great need for other people to like and admire you. 2.You have a tendency to be critical of yourself. 3.You have a great deal of unused capacity, which you have not turned to your advantage. 4.While you have some personality weaknesses, you are generally able to compensate for them. 5.Disciplined and self-controlled outside, you tend to be worrisome and insecure inside. Does this sound like you? If it does, you’re not alone. After presenting the personality sketch, Forer asked his students to rate it according to how well it applied to them. The average rating was 4.26 out of 5, with 5 being ‘excellent.’ This result demonstrates how similar we are to one another, with each student feeling that the twelve statements were uniquely applicable to them. While people may behave in ways that hide feelings like worry and insecurity, studies like this show that they affect everyone. By keeping this in mind, you’ll find it much easier to relate to others and form genuine connections. Most humans have very similar needs. In 1943, a psychologist named Abraham Maslow proposed a ‘hierarchy of needs,’ which represented a variety of human needs in the form of a pyramid.2 The idea of the pyramid is that in order to move to the next level, the needs of the level below must first be met. For example, before you’re able to fulfill the need for friendship, you must first fulfill basic needs like food and water. Helping others is important for everyone. While self-actualization was once considered the top of the pyramid, Maslow actually added another layer later in his life. This layer is labelled ‘self-transcendence,’ and refers to achieving altruistic goals, outside of the individual. This could involve charity work, helping others, or helping the environment. By remembering that we’re fundamentally very similar to other humans, it’s much easier to avoid feeling negative and lonely. Rather than focusing on the ways you feel different from others, try to direct your attention towards everything you have in common. You’ll feel happier, more motivated, and more connected to others.
How Emojis play an important role in our daily lives? Did you know that 6 billion emojis1 are sent a day? Emojis are everywhere, from everyday personal online communications to advertising campaigns. The message is easily conveyed by using emoji expressions. It triggers the emotional side of our brains, thus amplifying the complete gist of the message and increasing the reader’s involvement. Most significant things to know Emojis are smileys and ideograms used in the web pages and electronic messages. There are different genres of emojis such as emotions, animals, types of weather, places, common objects, and facial expressions. Originating in the late 1990s on the Japanese mobile phones, emoji had become rapidly popular all over the world from when they first started to become incorporated into the iPhone, which was further included in the Android and many other mobile operating system. Emojis improve communication Emojis play a significant role in our conversation.2 We comprehend emojis immediately for the reason that we can get visually understand what emojis actually are expressing. The reason we acknowledged them so rapidly is that emojis are equivalent to body language and tonal inflection. Sentence structure helps, however, when you are on Facebook, rapidly messaging a companion, or utilizing your smartphone to remark on Twitter, emojis help gets your message across, where text becomes inadequate. Verbal signs may not be as emotional since a few people talk with a dull tone, or can without much of a stretch camouflage mockery in their verbal expression. It rtakes time to comprehend somebody’s verbalized comical inclination, so emojis come in handy, as it clarifies what someone is genuinely saying. How do you use emojis? If you are an active phone user, then you are possibly pretty familiar with emojis. The usage and design of emojis look pretty simple, but there is a lot of potential in using these excitements in a creative manner. There is no instruction guide on how one must utilize the little realistic images. Some people use the proper emoji after their text, such as a smiley face after the words, “I’m happy.” Others add a series of emojis that may even look unrelated to convey their happiness. How ever you want to express yourself through emojis is really up to you. There is no right or wrong way. Some popular emojis and their meanings There are numerous meaning behind emojis. Here are some of the most important emojis and their meanings: Person Shrugging: An individual shrugging their shoulders usually designates an absence of knowledge about a specific topic, or an absence of care about the outcome of a situation. Face With Tears of Joy: A giggling emoji with tears depicts a state of so much joy that they’re in tears. (The person sending the emoji may not literally be in tears; this emoji is meant to display the excessiveness of the joy.) Red Heart: A classic red heart emoji is utilized to express love. Heart-Eyes Smiling Face: A face with hearts as eyes is used as a declaration of affection, for example: “I love this” or “I love you.” Thinking Face: Utilized to indicate thinking or deep thought. Fire: Can be used to explain someone or something being hot, or literally being in a fiery environment such as sitting around a campfire. Smiling Face With Smiling Eyes: This shows a true sense of pleasure. Face with Rolling Eyes: This is used to show boredom, contempt or disdain about a person or topic. In conclusion, emojis play a significant role in our daily lives. We communicate every day on mobile phones and online using emojis for fast and easy conversation. Emojis are pretty important for reliable conversation. They can be a means of self-expression—expressing our thoughts and feelings. Nowadays, emojis are becoming more popular in social media, non-academic, and the general casual conversations, changing the way we communicate when not face-to-face.